Keep Talking

There is talking and then there is communication, just as there is hearing and listening. When you are with the person that you love, communication, and listening is very important. This is your mate, your partner. You got their back and they got yours. However, is it always as easy to communicate?


Well, the truth is that it is never that easy because after all, men are from Mars and women from Venus. Real communication takes work. When I married my husband years ago, I thought he was a snob because one moment he would be all bubbly and joyful and then the next minute, he would be silent. I would later come to learn that his personality was somewhat of a mixture of extrovert and introvert.


Long story short, I learned how to communicate effectively. It took time, so don’t push it. Keep working at it, it will happen.


Handle important dialogues as they arise

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Do not postpone an important matter. Talk it out as soon as it comes up. If there is something bothering your mind, spit it out at the most timely moment. Most people get the timing wrong. There are times when you cannot discuss serious matters. For example, when there are guests in the house, that is no time to try and get your partner’s attention. Talk about everything when there is time, even issues like keeping a nice clean floor.


Keep an open mind


No matter how ready you think you are, serious conversations can always flare up with little or no notice. You need to be ready. If it does not turn out the way you had expected, you should always shift the gears, or shelf it all together to wait for another day. It is not a matter of life and death, is it?


Always tell the truth


Tell the truth as you know it, and not as you think it should be. As an equal partner in the relationship, your no should be no and your yes should be yes. If you are honest, you will make your partner know how you feel about some things, and they will open up to you. Do not worry about how your partner will receive the truth. As long as it is the truth, speak it out.


Always give your partner the opportunity to respond


This applies mostly to women as they can really talk, talk and talk some more especially when they are vexed by something. However, it need not be like that. With love, patience and understanding, let the other party respond.


A good conversation happens when you give the other party time to respond without interrupting them. They too have their truth. Let them have time to speak it out.


No guilt trips


This is one of the biggest relationship killers. People make errors in relationships and therefore using the same errors against them all the time is totally uncalled for. You do not want to bring up the past too much. Just talk about the issue at hand, and you will be good.

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